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Here are 10 great tips to placate your angry woman:
1. AGREE. You can start the cooling down from the time she gets warmed up. When she starts hurling the statements and the accusations, agree every now and then to a couple of things that are at least partly true. This derails her train of angry thought because she’s naturally expecting you to resist and reason. Just don’t cross the line between agreeing and turning into a mindless sycophant.
2. STOP, LOOK and LISTEN. Here’s another tactic you can try just as her anger’s building up. When she begins talking, sit down and listen to her. Don’t walk, fidget or fiddle with anything else. Establish eye contact and maintain it. There’s a good chance that giving her your full attention (or at least appearing to do so) will calm her down enough for rational discussion.
3. INVITE HER to SIT DOWN. Sitting down and then leaving your girl standing and free to pace around gives her a position of ascendancy. Invite her to sit in front of you at a table or beside you on a bench and then resume the discussion from there. That way, she won’t have the chance to build up her aggression by pacing around the same space.
4. GO for a WALK. Politely but firmly place a pause in your conversation, and then invite her to resume her spiel as the two of you walk around the block or through the park. The physical activity and fresh air should help dissipate some of her anger, while the change of scene will help distract her from what got her started in the first place.
5. TAKE HER out for TEA. It won’t just be the calming effects of tea that’ll be on your side. Having drinks (but not food) between the two of you deflects some of her anger, while the task of bringing cup to mouth partly distracts her from her original goal.
6. DO RANDOM ACTS of KINDNESS – to HER. Fix her breakfast in the morning. Tidy the bathroom yourself or take on cleaning the kitchen. Have her come home to a clean and neat environment. She can probably tell that you’re sucking up to her, but it works nonetheless.
7. GIVE a GIFT. Whether it’s a small necklace or that bag she’s been drooling at in the mall, a tangible peace offering almost always works. Just don’t do it too often, or she could exploit it to regularly augment her wardrobe. Besides, overuse this tactic and it’ll be the credit card companies giving you the grief – and these tips don’t work with them.
8. GET HER TALKING. Even if it’s just small talk, conversations between the two of you can help reestablish a relationship. Just remember that this will be more effective if you start the conversation and then ask for her input and opinions. In any other situation, this would be called fishing.
9. REMINISCE. Rev up the car and bring her to the restaurant of your first date, or that spot where the two of you had your first kiss (or first time with each other). They’re sappy, yes, but such gestures remind her of how great you’ve been so far.
10. APOLOGIZE. If her arguments do hold water and you have some fault somewhere, own up to it. She won’t be expecting that, so take the opportunity to steer the discussion. Present resolutions or compromises to finally kill and bury the issue.
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News word for li:
PLACATE = mendamaian, menenteramkan
hurling = melemparkan
accusation = tuduhan, penuduhan
sycophant = peleceh
fidget = keadaan/perasaan gelisah
ascendancy = kekuasaan
distract = mengalihkan
drool = air liur
reminisce = mengenangkan
sappy = gila-gilaan, tolol
